Monday, August 24, 2009

Sensitive Child Or Hall Monitor?

My daughter , I think, is destined to become a hall monitor. She regularly opens the living room window and yells at the neighbor kids to get out of the street. She yells at people to stop honking their horns, a regular occurrence in our neck of the woods. For some reason, no one can get out of their cars and walk up to someone's door. No, they must lay on the horn, sometimes for 10 minutes, until their intended target hears them. My normal response is, "Your horn blows, do you?" I try not to say it in her presence; honking horns drive me batty.

But I digress...

A couple weeks ago, we were all sitting on the patio enjoying a rare evening summer breeze, when The Diva ran over to see what the neighbors were doing. The next thing we knew, she was crying, yelling at one child to stop hitting the other with a stick. "Stop hitting my friend!" she cried. "You're hurting him!" She did not understand that it was a game and the sticks were "swords". She's four. The boys explained it to her, she understood, then all of a sudden it was funny.


A couple of minutes later, she came running over to me, crying once again{real tears each time}, with a frightened look on her face. She began to tell me that "Big Alex" had been stabbed with a stick, was bleeding and had to go to the hospital. Shocked, I got up to see what was going on. It was another game boys play that she didn't understand. I felt so sorry for her. She was visibly upset, but just as quickly as her tears came, the laughter did, too.

The Diva has an attitude
{Shocking, I know!}. She knows what should be done and she is not afraid to tell you when you aren't doing it. She also tells you not to do something with all the inflection and authority of a Mother cautioning her child, hand on her hip and finger wagging! Yes, this is my baby girl.

Does this make her a busy body, a concerned, sensitive child or a know-it-all? Will she outgrow it? Is it really just a phase all children go through? Or has she spent far too much time with only me and not enough with children her own age? I worry about what will happen when she starts school. Will the other children like her or will her "concern" with what everyone else is doing, or not doing, make them ostracize her? Does it simply mean that she desperately wants to belong, be social and have someone other than her parents pay attention to her?

I hope it all goes well. I pray that she can make new friends at school. She is a very social child, she is just not well versed in social graces/interactions with other children. I think that may be my fault, in a way, because she has not been around many others her age.

Funny how this article started out as a anecdotal tale of of my daughters quirks and ended as one about my fears of her not being accepted by her classmates. I guess you never can turn off the Mama thoughts, can you?

If it doesn't all work out, my daughter may very well be
The Diva Hall Monitor. But at least she will do it with style and flair, looking fabulous, while wearing ballerina shoes and a crown!



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1 comments:

Jeannie said...

(I really HATE your new comment box thingy!!)

Anywho, hopefully this works,....

I think The Diva will be just fine. Bella was home with me exclusively until she attended pre-k and I had many of the same concerns. Kids are real good about keepin' it real, so I think if there are issues, they'll be resolved quickly. She maybe loud and in charge at home, but might be real quiet and check out the scene first at school. It will be great!

 

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