More From The Free Range Stupid...In~Laws, That Is!

My Father~In~Law (who isn't always as bad as the rest of the In~Laws & had actually been pretty good to me up to now ) called last night to let us know that the MIL was going in today for some minor surgery (a new "port" is being grafted into her arm for her Dialysis). He then proceeded to tell me that he is bringing my Mother (The CRAZY, alcoholic one) out in January to live with him & my MIL to help take care of their house! OY!! OY!! OY!!

I wanted to reach through the phone & bitch slap him (D'OH!!)!! I understand his need to have someone help him out at the house. With all the extra responsibilities he now has associated with the care & feeding of my MIL, he is stretched pretty thin. But my Mother is not the best choice. Not even close.

Did I mention that I am in the process of getting her into a very nice Senior Apartment Complex where her rent would be almost nothing & utilities will be included? Did I also mention that I have been working on this since the middle of June? Thanks for appreciating all my hard work, Mom.

My Mom & I have a contentious relationship, and that's putting it mildly. My brother won't even speak to her anymore. You see my Mom is a Bi~Polar, Alcoholic, Anorexic, Manipulative, Stuck on the Cross, Prescription Drug Addict, Control Freak. Yep, that's an apt description of her. I deal with her better when she is 3000 miles away in Virginia. Not 30 miles away at my In~Laws' house.

I tried to explain to my well intentioned, but extremely naive & misguided FIL, that this is all going to go to hell in a hand basket very quickly, to no avail. He seems to think that he can "cure" my Mom of her alcoholism by keeping a good eye on her & reigning her in with rules & distractions. I told him that she does not follow anyone's rules, but does expect you to follow hers. To the letter.

This is going to be bad. Real bad.

When I spoke to my Big Bro about this last night, he laughed his ass off. He lives in yet another state & will now be even further away from Mom. Thanks, Kev! He also told me to just detach & let this situation unfold on it's own. The phrase he used was "grab a lawn chair, crack a beer, watch the fireworks, laugh my ass off & say 'I told you so'." Good advice, if I was dealing with normal people. I'm not.

I do not want my baby girl around that woman, not now anyway. She has not cleaned up her act & I will not expose my angel girl to her brand of crap. No one understands how I feel about this or why, except my brother (who heard it all), my best friend, my husband (sort of) & my Aunt Mary (the best woman on the planet, as far as my Bro & I are concerned). The "others" think I am overreacting, that I should just get over myself & deal with it. I have been told, "it won't be as bad as you think." Easy for them to say...

As far back as I can remember, my Mom told me everyday of my life that I was a "spoiled rotten little bitch who couldn't do anything right & everything I did do was half~assed." Nice, Mom. Thanks for that. She, of course, denies ever saying anything like that to me. Isn't selective amnesia convenient? She also told me that "she was going to take my brother & leave my Father, but then she found out she was pregnant (with me, obviously), & had to stay with the SOB." Thanks, again, Mom.

I got the SIL~From~Hell in the family gift exchange (for more on this go here & here) & my FIL is bringing my nuttier~than~a~fruitcake Mother to live with him. He has truly lost his damn mind! And I may lose what little of mine I have left! Why don't people ever stop to think about what consequences their choices/actions will have for the people around them?

Maybe I should just get them all frontal lobotomies for Christmas. That might fix the problem. I hear you can purchase gift certificates for those online...




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